The month of February has arrived. There is no escape from the flood of marketing and the ostentatious displays of objects that aim to represent a concept immensely complex, messy and often misdiagnosed.
“If it is conditional, it is not love.”
– Jagadish Vasudev
Not loving is much simpler and far less complicated.
It means not having to answer to anyone, not having to be sensitive to the needs of others and not having any restrictions.
In a way, it is complete freedom.
The idea does appeal.
Why would we want this mysterious force in our lives? There is no logic to it. We cannot prove it, contain it, or even explain it and yet, the capitalist world we live in thinks it can be sold in the form of various objects of affection. We are encouraged, and perhaps in some cases coerced, into spending our hard-earned credit on items that cannot touch the depths and complexities of one of the least understood forces in the universe.
To try to understand love is near impossible. However, to experience love and to fall into its enchanting world is as easy as reaching out and touching the air. Once love has taken its hold, there is very little chance of getting free without a struggle.
Never has there been a more mind-blowing, sense-distorting, heart-aching, stomach-churning, spine-tingling sensation than that of love. It is calm yet chaotic, mad yet perfectly sensible.
Love can seem like an alien emotion.
It almost doesn’t fit into the world – and yet, it is the only thing whereby humans can create beauty.
In the words of a song…
“I’ll be your dream, I’ll be your wish, I’ll be your fantasy.
I’ll be your hope, I’ll be your love, be everything that you need.
I love you more with every breath, truly madly deeply do
I will be strong, I will be faithful ’cause I’m counting on a new beginning.
A reason for living. A deeper meaning.”
– ‘Truly Madly Deeply’ by Savage Garden
In the words of a poem…
“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach.”
– Elizabeth Barrett Browning
…And when words aren’t enough to fully express our love, we build monuments and create beautiful pieces of art.
Love will find a way.
You can try to run from it, or hide from it, perhaps you can even outright deny it, but one thing that is known about love is that it is the bridge that connects everyone and everything. Once you’ve experienced this magical connection, life becomes far richer and more meaningful. This is due to love’s amazing ability to break down the walls we build for ourselves.
This Valentine’ Day, consider the ways of expressing love to those closest to you and around you. Open up to the endless possibilities and opportunities that come with falling in love, being in love, making love, accepting love, appreciating love, giving love and, ultimately, exemplifying love.
Michelle has a love for seeking wisdom and exploring human potential. Between transforming lives through coaching and creating cool marketing content, she can often be found enthusiastically sharing tips on well-being and wellness or giving a review of the book she’s had her nose in for the week.